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Confidence and Responsibility: Get in the Zone

Updated: Feb 23, 2021

When you are ready to get into the Zone, you have to leave certain things behind. One of them is the feeling of blame, or of placing responsibility elsewhere. When you do this, you divert your natural flow of energy and keep yourself from your own power. It means you are not taking responsibility and you are not in a leadership mindset.

What does it mean to place blame? It’s buying into the belief that something outside of you is responsible for the pain you are feeling. Someone or some circumstance is preventing you from attaining your own mastery.

Here’s one common example: People say, “I want to get in shape”, etc. blaming their body for being weak or out of shape, while believing that they are unable to do anything about it. They blame themselves for not being in shape at the same time.

This prevents them from getting the training that puts them into shape:

A cycle of blame and diminished expectations for their own performance. It comes down to a belief that things are out of their personal control, so then the effort isn’t made, and the belief is “proven”. The responsibility is placed outside of them, and they don’t get where they want to get with their goals. It sets up a cycle of diminished confidence and self-defeating behavior.

Here is how you break that cycle: link what you want to accomplish to a habit. Keep up the practice. Start with twenty minutes a day that is linked to something you already do anyway. For example, while doing something like sitting in a gravity chair, write down the ideas you have for reaching a goal and the steps you could take to accomplish it.

While you are having your morning beverage, visualize being in the state you want to be and how good it will feel when you get into mastery.

Take notes of what you want and about steps you can take to make that happen.

There is no room for blame when you know you are taking action, no matter how small the action may appear to be. The habit will support you in overcoming the tendency to have blame in a situation where you may feel challenged.

Link what you want to accomplish to that habit, and build on that. This takes away the blame and replaces it with action. It builds up a winning feeling that you can tap into and use to accomplish what you want to do.

When there is nothing to blame, and you get rid of every blame, you get into the Zone. You replace blame with action, which gives you access to your own natural energy.

That leads you to harmony and puts you into the flow of power that you feel when you are in the moment, ready to see the opportunity and make the moves that work.

At Competitive Edge we teach habits that support growth, focusing on personal responsibility and appropriate mindset. Contact us for a session and see how this can work for you.

Send us an email to And let us know what city you are in. If we don’t have an academy in your city, we have a network of friends, and we can put you in touch with what you need: professional support for a competent, structured, effective martial arts program.

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